12.26.2025 – desire to learn for

desire to learn for
pleasure’s of learning such a
joy to experience

Salt March at Coastal Discovery Museum, Hilton Head Island, SC

Adapted from the line, “Gunnar Danielsson, secretary general of Folkuniversitetet, said: “The desire to learn for pleasure’s sake, or for the sake of learning as such, is a joy to experience in a society which is increasingly obsessed with learning and education as preparation for work.” as it appears in the article, ‘Keeps your mind alert’: older Swedes reap the benefits of learning for pleasure by the Nordic correspondent for the Guardian, Miranda Bryant.

Back in the day when I was in college this three older ladies sat next to me in the class, History of the High Renaissance in Tuscany.

There were assigned seats but we always found each and sat in a group and chatted before class.

They were lifelong residents of Ann Arbor and the University offered locals the chance to ‘audit’ class (if there was room) for the fee of $25.

The ladies said they had been ‘going to school’ for years and loved learning new things.

That has stayed with me and I have always had this need to know and a curiosity about everything.

For example, we moved to the coastal low country of South Carolina.

Maybe I was aware of things like salt marshes and tides but they had never entered my life before.

Now my tablets are full of books and articles on the salt marshes.

I follow and try to understand tides and tidal information which is something good to know when you live in a county that at high tide, is 50% underwater.

And I wholeheartedly endorses that line that states, “The desire to learn for pleasure’s sake, or for the sake of learning as such, is a joy to experience.”

Back in college, my major was US History and I read for most of my out of class classwork.

My roommates were engineers and nightly crouched over paper and textbooks and calculators.

They would look at me and ask was I reading for class or for fun.

I was answer, “What’s the difference?”

12.25.2025 – 1944

1944
in Europe at Christmas Time
candy in the mail

In a letter dated 25 December, in what would have been 1944, my Dad wrote to my mom, his then girlfriend, from Luxemburg where his outfit was stationed at the time.

Dad wrote:

It was another Christmas today and we spent a rather quiet day. I guess you folks back home are realizing the war in not yet over and I hope we can come home soon.

I only received one package from you so far, a box of Fanny Farmer candy. We enjoyed it very much.

Although the wars seems to have taken a turn for the worst we are located in a fine town where the people talk French, German and English.

For dinner today we had a regular turkey dinner with all the trimmings just like home. But I felt lonesome for home and for you.

No surprise to folks who knew Dad that he got to writing about dinner and candy in the mail very early in his letter.

It should be noted that Dad was in the 12th Corps Headquarters Unit as the attached Dental Officer.

The 12th Corps was part of the United States Third Army under the command of one General George S. Patton, Jr.

Nine days before, on the 16th of December, American forces in Belgium had been overwhelmed by an unexpected attack by the German Army, an attack now remembered as The Battle of the Bulge.

During the attack, the United States 106th Division was surrounded and and two of the division’s three regiments surrendered on 19 December. The Germans gained 6,000 prisoners in one of the largest mass surrenders in American military history.

Patton famously managed to stop his Third Army, turn it 90 degrees and march north to attack, stop and then push back the Germans.

The 12th Corps was part of that pivot movement and so Dad ended up in Luxemburg where he attended Christmas Day services at the Cathedral and had a turkey dinner and shared a box of fannie farmer candy.

The odd thing about this is when Dad was in the States, he drove with several other Dentists that had just finished field training at Carlisle, Pa to Fort Andrew Jackson in Columbia, SC to be assigned to a unit.

When they got to their quarters at Fort Jackson, the guys Dad was traveling with couldn’t wait and ran off to get their assignments while Dad chose to unpack and hang up his uniforms.

By the time Dad got over to the office, they were at a loss at what to do with him as they had filled all the Dental positions they had open.

Almost as an afterthought, they sent Dad over the 12th Corps Headquarters Unit and told Dad that if he liked it there, he could stay as their Dental officer.

So Dad ended up as the only Dentist assigned to the HQ unit of Generals and Colonels who ran the 12th Corps.

Those guys who drove down from Carlisle with Dad?

They all got assigned to medical units in the 106th Division.

Christmas, 1944.

I have to wonder what Dad was thinking.

The decision to unpack his uniforms in February 1943 made a big difference in how he spent that holiday.

Probably made a big difference in my life as well.

Thoughts for Christmas and as the man said, be thankful for the small miracles … and be more thankful for the big ones!

PS: The collection of Dad’s over 200 letters home written during WW2 have been donated to the Bentley Library of Michigan History at the University of Michigan in Ann Arbor.

12.24.2025 – Christmas Eve Postcard:

Christmas Eve Postcard:
having a wonderful time here
do not miss the snow

There was a time when I embraced the cold and the snow.

Grew up loving sledding and snurfing (snow boards before they became snow boards) and tobogganing.

Snow forts and snow ball fights.

Would stay out sledding on Crestview School hill until my hands were numb and when we got inside I would run the bathroom sink full of hot water and plunge my hands in to warm up.

No matter how many times I was told that didn’t work or that it made my fingers hurt worse, I couldn’t help myself.

As far as my fingers go, in winter, I picture poor Bob Cratchit in his scarf and coat, trying to warm his hands from the single candle that lit his desk.

Never got into cross country skiing but I enjoyed going out to Hoffmaster State Park and WALKING the cross country ski trails and thinking I was a Jeremiah Johnson type lost in the woods in winter. (Though there was that time I stayed too late and it got dark and got lost in the woods. I knew that Lake Michigan was out there and if I could get to the beach, I could find the walkway back to the parking lot. I made it but Jack London’s To Build a Fire was playing my mind).

Don’t get me wrong.

I get it.

But down here I was walking the beach in the sunshine.

Some kids (most likely from Wisconsin) were beach boarding.

I wasn’t getting out of my car and stepping into 4 inches of slush that went over my shoes and soaked my socks.

I wasn’t scrapping my windows.

I wasn’t worrying if my car would slide through the stop sign.

I wasn’t shoveling snow.

I wasn’t worried if I had gas for the snowblower.

I wasn’t worried that the pipes might freeze.

I wasn’t … cold.

I thought about how long I spent in Michigan winters.

50 of them I lived through.

I think that’s long enough.

Sometimes, I still don’t feel like I have thawed out.

Like I tell folks, Stalin would send people to Siberia … to punish them.

Anyway, Merry Christmas Eve 2025.

I am down here in the Low Country.

Having a wonderful time.

Do not miss the snow.

12.23.2025 – 187

187
that of all who give gifts these
two were the wisest

The Gift of the Magi
ONE DOLLAR AND eighty-seven cents. That was all. And sixty cents of it was in pennies. Pennies saved one and two at a time by bulldozing the grocer and the vegetable man and the butcher until one’s cheeks burned with the silent imputation of parsimony that such close dealing implied. Three times Della counted it. One dollar and eighty-seven cents. And the next day would be Christmas.

There was clearly nothing to do but flop down on the shabby little couch and howl. So Della did it. Which instigates the moral reflection that life is made up of sobs, sniffles, and smiles, with sniffles predominating.

While the mistress of the home is gradually subsiding from the first stage to the second, take a look at the home. A furnished flat at $8 per week. It did not exactly beggar description, but it certainly had that word on the lookout for the mendicancy squad.

In the vestibule below was a letter-box into which no letter would go, and an electric button from which no mortal finger could coax a ring. Also appertaining thereunto was a card bearing the name “Mr. James Dillingham Young.” The “Dillingham” had been flung to the breeze during a former period of prosperity when its possessor was being paid $30 per week. Now, when the income was shrunk to $20, the letters of “Dillingham” looked blurred, as though they were thinking seriously of contracting to a modest and unassuming D. But whenever Mr. James Dillingham Young came home and reached his flat above he was called “Jim” and greatly hugged by Mrs. James Dillingham Young, already introduced to you as Della. Which is all very good.

Della finished her cry and attended to her cheeks with the powder rag. She stood by the window and looked out dully at a grey cat walking a grey fence in a grey backyard. Tomorrow would be Christmas Day, and she had only $1.87 with which to buy Jim a present. She had been saving every penny she could for months, with this result. Twenty dollars a week doesn’t go far. Expenses had been greater than she had calculated. They always are. Only $1.87 to buy a present for Jim. Her Jim. Many a happy hour she had spent planning for something nice for him. Something fine and rare and sterling—something just a little bit near to being worthy of the honor of being owned by Jim.

There was a pier-glass between the windows of the room. Perhaps you have seen a pier-glass in an $8 flat. A very thin and very agile person may, by observing his reflection in a rapid sequence of longitudinal strips, obtain a fairly accurate conception of his looks. Della, being slender, had mastered the art.

Suddenly she whirled from the window and stood before the glass. Her eyes were shining brilliantly, but her face had lost its color within twenty seconds. Rapidly she pulled down her hair and let it fall to its full length.

Now, there were two possessions of the James Dillingham Youngs in which they both took a mighty pride. One was Jim’s gold watch that had been his father’s and his grandfather’s. The other was Della’s hair. Had the Queen of Sheba lived in the flat across the airshaft, Della would have let her hair hang out the window some day to dry just to depreciate Her Majesty’s jewels and gifts. Had King Solomon been the janitor, with all his treasures piled up in the basement, Jim would have pulled out his watch every time he passed, just to see him pluck at his beard from envy.

So now Della’s beautiful hair fell about her, rippling and shining like a cascade of brown waters. It reached below her knee and made itself almost a garment for her. And then she did it up again nervously and quickly. Once she faltered for a minute and stood still while a tear or two splashed on the worn red carpet.

On went her old brown jacket; on went her old brown hat. With a whirl of skirts and with the brilliant sparkle still in her eyes, she fluttered out the door and down the stairs to the street.

Where she stopped the sign read: “Mme. Sofronie. Hair Goods of All Kinds.” One flight up Della ran, and collected herself, panting. Madame, large, too white, chilly, hardly looked the “Sofronie.”

“Will you buy my hair?” asked Della.

“I buy hair,” said Madame. “Take yer hat off and let’s have a sight at the looks of it.”

Down rippled the brown cascade. “Twenty dollars,” said Madame, lifting the mass with a practised hand.

“Give it to me quick,” said Della.

Oh, and the next two hours tripped by on rosy wings. Forget the hashed metaphor. She was ransacking the stores for Jim’s present.

She found it at last. It surely had been made for Jim and no one else. There was no other like it in any of the stores, and she had turned all of them inside out. It was a platinum fob chain simple and chaste in design, properly proclaiming its value by substance alone and not by meretricious ornamentation—as all good things should do. It was even worthy of The Watch. As soon as she saw it she knew that it must be Jim’s. It was like him. Quietness and value—the description applied to both. Twenty-one dollars they took from her for it, and she hurried home with the 87 cents. With that chain on his watch Jim might be properly anxious about the time in any company. Grand as the watch was, he sometimes looked at it on the sly on account of the old leather strap that he used in place of a chain.

When Della reached home her intoxication gave way a little to prudence and reason. She got out her curling irons and lighted the gas and went to work repairing the ravages made by generosity added to love. Which is always a tremendous task, dear friends—a mammoth task.

Within forty minutes her head was covered with tiny, close-lying curls that made her look wonderfully like a truant schoolboy. She looked at her reflection in the mirror long, carefully, and critically.

“If Jim doesn’t kill me,” she said to herself, “before he takes a second look at me, he’ll say I look like a Coney Island chorus girl. But what could I do—oh! what could I do with a dollar and eighty-seven cents?”

At 7 o’clock the coffee was made and the frying-pan was on the back of the stove hot and ready to cook the chops.

Jim was never late. Della doubled the fob chain in her hand and sat on the corner of the table near the door that he always entered. Then she heard his step on the stair away down on the first flight, and she turned white for just a moment. She had a habit for saying little silent prayers about the simplest everyday things, and now she whispered: “Please God, make him think I am still pretty.”

The door opened and Jim stepped in and closed it. He looked thin and very serious. Poor fellow, he was only twenty-two—and to be burdened with a family! He needed a new overcoat and he was without gloves.

Jim stopped inside the door, as immovable as a setter at the scent of quail. His eyes were fixed upon Della, and there was an expression in them that she could not read, and it terrified her. It was not anger, nor surprise, nor disapproval, nor horror, nor any of the sentiments that she had been prepared for. He simply stared at her fixedly with that peculiar expression on his face.

Della wriggled off the table and went for him.

“Jim, darling,” she cried, “don’t look at me that way. I had my hair cut off and sold it because I couldn’t have lived through Christmas without giving you a present. It’ll grow out again—you won’t mind, will you? I just had to do it. My hair grows awfully fast. Say ‘Merry Christmas!’ Jim, and let’s be happy. You don’t know what a nice—what a beautiful, nice gift I’ve got for you.”

“You’ve cut off your hair?” asked Jim, laboriously, as if he had not arrived at that patent fact yet even after the hardest mental labor.

“Cut it off and sold it,” said Della. “Don’t you like me just as well, anyhow? I’m me without my hair, ain’t I?”

Jim looked about the room curiously.

“You say your hair is gone?” he said, with an air almost of idiocy.

“You needn’t look for it,” said Della. “It’s sold, I tell you—sold and gone, too. It’s Christmas Eve, boy. Be good to me, for it went for you. Maybe the hairs of my head were numbered,” she went on with sudden serious sweetness, “but nobody could ever count my love for you. Shall I put the chops on, Jim?”

Out of his trance Jim seemed quickly to wake. He enfolded his Della. For ten seconds let us regard with discreet scrutiny some inconsequential object in the other direction. Eight dollars a week or a million a year—what is the difference? A mathematician or a wit would give you the wrong answer. The magi brought valuable gifts, but that was not among them. This dark assertion will be illuminated later on.

Jim drew a package from his overcoat pocket and threw it upon the table.

“Don’t make any mistake, Dell,” he said, “about me. I don’t think there’s anything in the way of a haircut or a shave or a shampoo that could make me like my girl any less. But if you’ll unwrap that package you may see why you had me going a while at first.”

White fingers and nimble tore at the string and paper. And then an ecstatic scream of joy; and then, alas! a quick feminine change to hysterical tears and wails, necessitating the immediate employment of all the comforting powers of the lord of the flat.

For there lay The Combs—the set of combs, side and back, that Della had worshipped long in a Broadway window. Beautiful combs, pure tortoise shell, with jewelled rims—just the shade to wear in the beautiful vanished hair. They were expensive combs, she knew, and her heart had simply craved and yearned over them without the least hope of possession. And now, they were hers, but the tresses that should have adorned the coveted adornments were gone.

But she hugged them to her bosom, and at length she was able to look up with dim eyes and a smile and say: “My hair grows so fast, Jim!”

And them Della leaped up like a little singed cat and cried, “Oh, oh!”

Jim had not yet seen his beautiful present. She held it out to him eagerly upon her open palm. The dull precious metal seemed to flash with a reflection of her bright and ardent spirit.

“Isn’t it a dandy, Jim? I hunted all over town to find it. You’ll have to look at the time a hundred times a day now. Give me your watch. I want to see how it looks on it.”

Instead of obeying, Jim tumbled down on the couch and put his hands under the back of his head and smiled.

“Dell,” said he, “let’s put our Christmas presents away and keep ’em a while. They’re too nice to use just at present. I sold the watch to get the money to buy your combs. And now suppose you put the chops on.”

The magi, as you know, were wise men—wonderfully wise men—who brought gifts to the Babe in the manger. They invented the art of giving Christmas presents. Being wise, their gifts were no doubt wise ones, possibly bearing the privilege of exchange in case of duplication. And here I have lamely related to you the uneventful chronicle of two foolish children in a flat who most unwisely sacrificed for each other the greatest treasures of their house. But in a last word to the wise of these days let it be said that of all who give gifts these two were the wisest. Of all who give and receive gifts, such as they are wisest. Everywhere they are wisest. They are the magi.

POSTSCRIPT: According to Wikipedia, William Sydney Porter (September 11, 1862 – June 5, 1910), better known by his pen name O. Henry, was a heavy drinker, and by 1908, his markedly deteriorating health affected his writing. In 1909, Sarah left him, and he died on June 5, 1910, of cirrhosis of the liver, complications of diabetes, and an enlarged heart. According to one account, he died of cerebral hemorrhage.

After funeral services in New York City, he was buried in the Riverside Cemetery in Asheville, North Carolina. His daughter Margaret Worth Porter had a short writing career from 1913 to 1916. She married cartoonist Oscar Cesare of New York in 1916; they were divorced four years later. She died of tuberculosis in 1927 and was buried next to her father.

According to the cemetery, as of 2023, people have been leaving $1.87 in change (the amount of Della’s savings at the beginning of “The Gift of the Magi”) on Porter’s grave for at least 30 years. The cemetery says the money is given to area libraries.

12.22.2025 – touchdown nullified

touchdown nullified
latest NFL Ref call ..
are you kidding me?

I was in a car driving back from Atlanta to our home in the Low Country with only the ESPN play-by-play texts to follow the Detroit Lion game yesterday.

I was reminded of the stories of how baseball games back in the day would be ‘re-created’ by studio announcers based on a pitch by pitch account that came across by telegraph connections.

Ronald Reagan would tell stories of recreated Chicago Cubs games when he was an announcer at WHO-AM (The radio voice of Iowa) and one time the lines went and he had no update for 5 minutes or so.

Reagan recounted that in his version of the game, he had the batter foul off 27 pitches in a run until the connection was restored.

Anyway, there I was with my phone on my knee waiting for each new update to appear on the screen … and wait.

12 plays.

In realtime it was about 15 minutes.

In game time it was all after the 2 minute warning.

I thought my phone locked on the next to last play.

A little playing field was shown on the screen of my phone with endzone in pink.

I read the last update, 3 & Goal at the 9 about 20 times and finally looked off through the window.

In the reflection I could just see my phone and I figured it would finally refresh and the pink screen would be gone which would mean the Lions scored or didn’t score and the game was over.

3 & Goal at the 9.

3 & Goal at the 9.

Wait some more.

3 & Goal at the 9.

Finally my screen flashed and when it reloaded all is showed was the final score.

I had to click a few buttons to finally read the last play and to read for the 2nd time in the drive, Touchdown Nullified.

Twice in the same drive.

Touchdown Nullified.

The complete burst of text for that final play was (shotgun) J. Goff pass short left to A. St. Brown to Put 8 for 1 yard. Lateral to J. Goff for 8 yards. TOUCHDOWN NULLIFIED by Penalty. PENALTY on DET – A. St. Brown. Offensive Pass Interference. 0 yards, enforced at PIT 9 – No Play.

No wonder it took so long for my phone to refresh.

Without there being a play, the time was over so the game was over, so said the Refs.

And the Refs had a lot to say.

In the last 12 plays, 5 penalties were called.

Lions had the ball at the 1 and two penalties later, the Lions were back on 16.

Some will argue it was bad football by the Lions.

But it certainly seemed like there was more than just football going on down there.

Much later I was able to read that what happened on the last play was:

“It is a pretty complex play. We had the original player who had the ball, lose possession of the ball. So, we had to decide if that was a fumble or a backwards pass because of course we have restrictions on the recovery of a fumble inside two minutes. We ruled that it was a backward pass, so the recovering player was able to advance it and that recovering player advanced it for a touchdown. We had to rule on that and then because of the offensive pass interference, it negates the touchdown. Because it is an offensive foul, we do not extend the half. Therefore, there is no score and there is no replay of the down. That’s the way the rule is written,” [Head Ref] Cheffers said.

I hate to same old Lions but much the way the same old Lions have done all my life, they somehow, someway find a different way to lose a football game.

Was it a bad call?

Was it a bunch of bad calls?

It certainly was a bunch of calls.

As Head Coach Dan Campbell said, “I don’t even want to get into it, because it’s not going to change anything. We still lost,” Campbell said. “It’s — I mean, you think you score, you don’t score, and then you think you’re going to have another play. Replay it or back it up, one more shot. And it doesn’t. And that’s just, I guess that’s the way it’s written in the rulebook. So, that’s frustrating. But there again, it should never come to that.”

You want to be good.

You want to lucky.

But as Lefty Gomez said years ago, ‘I’d rather be luck than good.’